Bookpleasures.com is pleased to welcome as our guest, Sterling Mire author of The Aom System: Manifestation Mastery in 30 days.

Sterling is from Texas where she graduated from Arts Magnet, a performing arts high school, and received professional training in Dallas, which led her to Los Angeles.

There she acted in several feature films, one of which led to her discovery by a major music label and a more substantial career in that industry.

During this time, she also researched through books, college-level courses in psychology, and workshops ways of manifesting one's dreams.

In 1998 she began to develop her unique Art of Manifestation - AOM © System from personal and group testing that create 90-95% completion rates for her trail testers.

After using it to launch her musical career, she returned to develop her system further and make it available to the general public.

In 2012, after working with clients for years, she refined her AOM system and founded Get Your Life Now. 

Over the years Sterling has worked with some 4300 clients and presented 87 workshops around the world. Her esteemed corporate clients include Google, People Magazine, InStyle Magazine, Entertainment Weekly, Hyatt and Hilton Hotels, The Lifetime Channel, The Beverly Wilshire Hotel, among many others.

She has also worked with A-list Celebrities such as House of Cards, Constance Zimmer, and award-winning actress, Kimberly Elise, to name a few.

Norm: Good day Sterling and welcome to Bookpleasures.com

What do you consider to be your greatest success (or successes) so far in your various careers?

Sterling: Creating the AOM System 22 years ago has been, undoubtedly, my most satisfying endeavor because it not only allows me to realize my own successes in whatever I envision for myself, but it allows every one who ever applies it to their life to accomplish anything they can imagine for themselves, often delivering more than they initially imagined.

Their victories and celebrations are something I thoroughly enjoy experiencing with them, as if it were my own triumphs. There is nothing more satisfying than to know that now with this system available in various modalities everyone has access to putting an end to personal suffering and instead live their ideal lives fully.

Norm: What has been your greatest challenge (professionally) that you've overcome in getting to where you're at today?

Sterling: Probably overcoming the “traps” I identify in the AOM system. After identifying these pitfalls, I also devised a way to bypass them. The traps I am referring to are:

Attachment - being attached to a certain outcome.

Resistance - Resisting “what is so”. Not allowing things to be as they are.

Obsession - Worrying or thinking “worst case scenarios”.

Indifference/Apathy - The “I don't care” attitude or giving up.

Doubt - The absence of faith. Not believing in what you are creating.

Impatience - Trying to force things into being before its time.

Over-Analyzing - Trying to figure things out.

Questioning - Questioning is actually a combination of doubt and impatience.

Norm: Did you ever do anything that you are ashamed of? How did you deal with it?

Sterling: The last time I felt ashamed was in 2001. My mother came to visit me from Texas so that we could travel from Los Angeles to see my grandfather who was ill in Palmdale, California.

We had such a great visit! He hardly seemed ill at all. He was so happy, energetic and he even enthusiastically brought out his guitar playing and singing songs to us.

I continued to receive his letters encouraging me to come visit him again. He would often write informing me of new transportation systems that provided a direct route from my city to his town. At the time, I had no idea what he was really trying to say.

I did visit him shortly thereafter once I was notified that he was on his deathbed. He was quite incoherent when I got there. I stroked his soft, thick head of silver hair and told him what a fine grandfather he was to me, how much I appreciated and loved him, while tears incessantly slid down my cheeks. I was inconsolable. The strangest thing happened during this moment of anguish. I suddenly felt about six hands on my back, although we were alone, comforting me and suddenly

I was overcome with a sense of peace and acceptance. A “knowing” replaced the deep sense of grief I was experiencing, That “knowing” informed me that nothing was wrong. That everything was perfectly natural and ok. It was as if the truth overcame my illusionary human thoughts.

I re-read his letters afterwards and it was then that it became clear to me that he desperately wanted to see me before his condition worsened.  I was ashamed after he passed because I was unable to see in his letters that he was trying to urge me to come see him because he knew his time was limited. How I dealt with it was by forgiving myself and learned a valuable lesson that I have carried with me to this day. That lesson was to pay closer attention to the underlying context of what people are saying. Ask questions instead of assuming.

Norm: If you could relive a moment in your life, what moment what you choose?

Sterling: Any moment with my grandmother I would love to relive simply because of the experience of receiving unconditional love. Love is the answer. Love is our most powerful energy. In fact, unconditional love is the highest form of love we can create and receive and having discovered the capacity within myself to give unconditional love to all has been one of the most, if not THE most, gratifying experience I've ever had. I feel whole and complete, at peace, satisfied with all aspects of life.

When unconditional love is reciprocated, it makes the experience that much more richer.

Norm: When was the last time you had a broken heart and how did you deal with it?

Sterling: In 2016, when my blissful and “perfect” marriage ended in divorce. You may think, “What happened?” Because of the AOM System, I always experienced complete gratitude and fulfillment in my marriage and expressed it consistently.

I used to tell friends, if I had a magic wand I would have to throw it away because there was nothing I would change about my husband or my marriage.

Although we had very little disagreements to sort out throughout our marriage, my then husband was struggling with himself and his purpose in life.

This internal “battle” went on so long without him finding a solution that he thought the best thing would be for him to give up everything and focus just on himself and his goals.

He created the possibility that his home, the city, his office, his material possessions and me, his wife, were “distracting” him, holding him back from achieving his aspirations and feeling satisfied with his life.

I offered to discuss this with him when he announced that he wanted a divorce.

He resoundingly said no and I knew he was absolutely closed to the possibility of reconsidering. I had to let him go.

I knew that with time he would come to realize that these false beliefs he convinced himself of would become clear in time. He needed to realize this in his own time, in his own way. AOM really made this heartbreaking experience incredibly easy to process.

Because of AOM I understood clearly that this had nothing to do with me. It had to do with him seeking internal fulfillment through outside circumstances.

There are two things that make breaking up an extremely painful experience. One is that we can easily make it mean something disempowering about ourselves, such as: “I am not good enough”. Or, “something is wrong with me”, “I am not lovable” or “I am a failure”.

The other is the loss we are afraid of. I supported and continued to love my husband. Because of who I was being towards him, he wanted nothing more than to stay in close communications with me. We actually became closer. We were able to discuss his struggles and find ways for him to work through his issues.

From the beginning of our parting, he always ended each of our conversations with “I love you”. He continued to send me cards in the mail full of love and gratitude. We talk almost daily and our bonds are one of the strongest I have in my life today. I know we will always be together even if we never re-marry or live together again. Yes, I was heart-broken because I had to mourn the loss of what I call the “third” entity that we created through our living together and marriage.

Our relationship had changed and I felt sad for the change that I did not desire. I experienced sadness because of the pitfall of attachment to an outcome. The outcome I am referring to is the expectation that marriage is supposed to last forever. The alternative is to live each day with gratitude knowing that one is not promised a tomorrow. If we live each day as such we will not only be living a rich and satisfying life, we will be left with no regrets and only complete fulfillment instead.

Norm: If you could switch places with someone famous, who would it be?

Sterling: Actually, many come to mind and it's actually a question I ask at dinner parties, LOL! People and the lives they create for themselves fascinate me.

It's a singular adventure and I would love to be able to split myself up and create various lives and experiences. The next best thing though, is reading autobiographies. This I do often.

It not only allows me to vicariously experience their lives, but it has been very informative to find the running thread that is apparent in all extraordinary lives, even though each life is absolutely unique unto itself.

To answer your question, I'd say at least one would be Dolly Parton because she has proven that having a clear vision connected to one's heart and soul is the essential key ingredient for creating an extraordinary life solely from within.

She also takes responsibility for who she is being in her life and how she “shows up” for people. Her openness, honesty, genuineness, sense of humor and her ability to accept and fully be who she is, loving who she and the love she has for others is exceptional. It's evident that she sincerely cares for what she does and others. She is living an extraordinary life and has accomplished and given so much to the world!

There are very few “role models” like her in the world today. However, I believe that is going to change!

Norm; What motivated you to write The AOM System and please tell us a little about your book?

Sterling: Since I was a child, I have always had the distinct desire to live life to the fullest; to have extraordinary experiences and to fulfill on all aspirations that I envisioned for myself.

I started studying the works of those who seem to know the secrets for gaining the understanding of how life works and how I could achieve ultimate success.

I began with reading the book Psycho-Cybernetics, by Dr. Maxwell Maltz when I was thirteen years old.

I was elated to discover that someone knew just what it was that I was searching for, however, after reading the book, I was reduced to tears. I was frustrated and confused because I couldn't produce results akin to the inspiring examples and stories shared within the book.

Yet, I continued my search, studying the works of Alan Watts, Napoleon Hill, James Allen, Charles Haanel……the list is quite long. I also studied various religions and the teachings it offered.

All of which provided great “food for thought” but I wasn't manifesting as intentionally as I would have liked. It seemed I always ended up disillusioned, discouraged, and disappointed and I'd give up. I concluded that there was a lot of extraneous information that only served to complicate what is actually quite simple, and many essential elements were under-emphasized or unmentioned.

There was also the issue of understandable, workable steps or a plan to follow missing. I found when there were directions provided, confusion would follow due to unanswered questions that would again, lead me to become frustrated and give up. However, I knew the information I had read was true, if only it was accessible.

After materializing Gary Oldman in my Laurel Canyon home straight from nothing, but myself, I began scrutinizing how I accomplished this incredible feat. I mean, here is this much sought after actor standing in my home saying, “I don't know why I am here because I don't do things like this. I was compelled to be here. My manager and I argued about me deciding to go, but I insisted that I must come visit you.”  I knew that if I could determine all the elements that had to come together to produce this result, I'd have the “recipe” I had been seeking for so long. That was the beginning of creating (and testing) the AOM System.

Norm: What is the most important thing that people don't know about the subject of your book that they need to know?

Sterling: One cannot manifest one's desires successfully unless one has replaced past pain, sorrow and traumas with total freedom, love, peace and acceptance of the past. This is powerfully accomplished in Part 1. Also, effectively creating your future is a skill that must be honed and Part 2 provides the shortcuts for understanding how one can create ones future to ensure getting exactly what one wants.

For example, one could create the perfect mate and describe this person quite thoroughly, however, if one doesn't create who they are for the person who is being manifested, one could manifest that ideal person only to discover the feelings aren't mutual. Alas, unrequited love.

Norm: What do you hope will be the everlasting thoughts for readers who finish your book?

Sterling: That they now know they always have the choice, the understanding and the tools to create their version of an ideal life, in all areas of their lives for the rest of their lives.

Norm:  What was the most difficult part of writing this book?

Sterling: Actually, there was nothing difficult about writing the book. What I call the cliff notes version of the book was created for my clients over 8 years ago in addition to knowing the information through and through for 22 years.

Norm: Are there vocabulary words or concepts in your book that may be new to readers? Define some of those.

Sterling: No, I do not believe there are words or concepts that need clarification. The feedback I've been receiving from readers is that the books information and unique system is very clear, understandable and relatable.  People have been writing me to share stories about how their lives have changed by using AOM. Some have even informed me that dramatic, positive changes have happened in their lives just by reading the book!

Norm: How would you respond to potential readers who might be skeptical about the subject matter of the book?

Sterling: Oh! I LOVE skeptics! Many of my clients came to me as skeptics. I am a BIG skeptic. I call myself a “healthy skeptic”. 

I define it as questioning something, however, being open-minded and flexible to discover something new.

Therefore, you could say this system was created by a skeptic for skeptics! This is exactly why I tested the system in my life for five years and I still wasn't fully convinced. I then gathered a test group comprised of 15 people for 12 months before I was satisfied - the results were astonishing! At the end of the twelve months, not only did the test group fulfill on 90% - 95% of all their biggest aspirations, they achieved most of it in half the time they thought they would. The minimal 5% - 10% unfulfilled was “happening” just not completed. Everyone rated the system a 10 on a scale of 1-10. That is when I felt confident enough to share it with others AND continue doing it myself and I've never looked back.

Norm: Did you learn anything from writing your book and what was it?

Sterling: Writing the book has given me an opportunity to do something that I have never done before (writing a book) with ease, confidence, clarity, synchronicity and flow. I utilized the AOM tools to not only create the book, which is the result I intended, but it also gave me the tools to create the experience of writing the book, which is actually just as important as what we produce and quite possibly the most important aspect. It also gave me an opportunity to fully be faithful, full of faith, in the face of the “unknown”.  I put quotes around the word “unknown” because really if it is created it IS known.

Norm:  Why did you create the AOM System?

Sterling: I created the AOM system because after 20 years of studying most everything there was to discover on the subject of manifesting an extraordinary life, I found myself stopped by unanswered questions. The information available was great information, but it didn't provide clear, concise and understandable steps for successfully manifesting anything I wanted to create. I felt the information or modalities for accessing manifestation mastery was missing too many variables. I was determined to create a fool-proof, whole and complete, simple structure to access easy manifesting that encompassed a thorough understanding of how life really works and who we are in relation to the creative process that surrounds our life.

Norm: What adaptations do we need to make at this moment in that we are living through a pandemic that has affected every aspect of our lives?

Sterling: It's imperative, regardless of the circumstances we face in our lives, that we understand to transform any situation one must accept what is so. Accepting is not agreeing to what is. There is a big difference between the two. Accepting something is practicing non-resistance and when we resist something, it will persist, versus shift into a place of non-resistance which supports what we all truly want in life: freedom, love, fulfillment, satisfaction, prosperity and to fulfill a purpose that truly makes a difference in the world.

Norm:  Any unique ways you'll be marketing your book that is different from how others authors market their books?

Sterling: Well, let's see. For one, I don't think everyone is benefiting from the talents of my publicist, Harlan Boll! He has been so instrumental in providing a bridge to connect with the public. As we move further into 2021 there are many new, unique opportunities that are popping up at the moment, however, I won't say anymore until they are solid. 

Norm: Where can our readers find out more about you and The AOM System?

Sterling: My WEBSITE and the physical book as well as the Kindle version is available world-wide through Amazon and Barnes and Noble.

Norm: Are you working on any books/projects that you would like to share with us? (We would love to hear all about them!)

Sterling: My next book will be on the subject of the art of communication. In this book I will demonstrate how people can transform ones life and the lives of others through language.

Norm: Thanks once again and good luck with all of your future endeavors.

Sterling: And, thank YOU, Norm! It is an honor and privilege to participate in this interview.