Reviewer Conny Withay:Operating her own business in office management since 1991, Conny is an avid reader and volunteers with the elderly playing her designed The Write Word Game. A cum laude graduate with a degree in art living in the Pacific Northwest, she is married with two sons, two daughters-in-law, and three grandchildren.
Author: Lynda Bush
Publisher: WestBow Press
“I felt blessed that I could walk with him and help him. It was not an easy time for either one of us, but we did the best we could with the challenge we were given,” Lynda Bush writes in her book, A Caregiver? Me?
This one hundred and eight page e-book targets those dealing with being a caregiver of a loved one at the end of life. Covering eleven chapters, the topic of accepting to anticipating and the aftermath of a family member or friend’s passing would make the book acceptable to mature adults. With a few offered websites, there is no section of references or nationwide contacts for assistance.
In Bush’s short story, she explains remarrying late in life, only to learn her husband of three years has terminal cancer. Having reconnected with this friend from high school on the internet, their first date involved learning the outcome his cancer biopsy. Married one year later, the two worked through the pain and heartache dealing with death.
After the first chapter about her personal journey as a caregiver, she blends her story into tips, suggestions, and reminders how to deal with such a humbling, overwhelming process of being a caregiver.
Chapters include taking care of oneself first, having humor, journaling and using a calendar, suggested on-hand items, legal issues, early preparations, discussing death, funeral arrangements, dealing with family and friends, final weeks of life, and saying goodbye.
As the process of dying happens, the author suggests having plenty of comfortable clothing including sweat socks and using panty liners and latex gloves, along with having child sippy cups, pill dispensers, extra-long twin sheets, drop cloths, cinnamon applesauce, whistles or bells, and remote response units.
Having been through the tragedy first hand, she urges those who are not caregivers to aid by offering small meals in disposable containers, honoring the loved one through regular calls or emails, running errands, and visiting on a limited basis.
By completing the emotional journey conveying love to the one dying and it is alright to leave this world, it still takes the caregiver about a year to recover from the mental and emotional memories.
With little information about funeral or medical costs and surety of eternal salvation, the writer’s words remind readers of the emotional path one takes in helping a loved one die. Heartbreaking as it is, peace and humor can be found occasionally, brightening the path.
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