Today, Norm Goldman Publisher & Editor of Bookpleasures.com is pleased to have as our guest Valarie Lovelight author of Seeing Through the Eyes of Love.
Valarie is an Administrative Professional dealing with people who are sick, dying or has lost family members. She is also a licensed Minister.
Seeing Through the Eyes of Love is her first published work.
Good day Valarie and thanks for participating in our interview.
What is the one thing other people always seem to get wrong about you?
Most people think that nothing ever bothers me because I always have a positive attitude, even when things are not going well. Truth is I have bad moments like everyone else. I get upset and angry but I try not to let it affect the way I interact with people, even the ones that cause the strife. Every day I make the decision, and even several times a day, to walk in love with people. At times, I have to separate myself to adjust my attitude because it's not automatic.
If you could change one
thing about the world, what would it be?
I would re-introduce
intimacy back into the world, which encompasses the emotional,
intellectual, spiritual and physical aspect in relationships. Today,
if you say intimacy, most people would immediately think sex, and sex
is only an expression of intimacy, not the definition. Because of
this, many relationships are built around sex and nothing more. When
sex is removed or diminished, the relationships end up with broken
homes and hearts.
I noticed that you deal
with people who are sick, dying or lost family members. How do you
stop yourself from becoming emotionally involved with these people?
Most of my interactions
take place over the phone, thus I don't often have face to face
contact with people and they can't see my tears. However, when I do
have personal contact, it's difficult not to become emotionally
involved on some level, if you care about people. Just as it its is
easy to become desensitized to their grief when trying to shield
yourself. My balance is realizing that becoming too emotionally
involved would make me less effective and becoming desensitized would
make me ineffective in helping them.
Do you recall how your interest in writing originated? What do you see as the influences on your writing?
As a child, as I had always had an active imagination. I would draw then write a couple of lines to describe my pictures. I loved participating in plays and reading contests but during my college days I did not pursue it. Although I still read, I didn't do much writing, except for poems and writing journals.
I always wondered if I
had what it takes to write a book and as a result I began to dabble
but unfortunately I never completed anything. However, in 2009 I
entertained the thought of publishing a book. I thought about people
and what people living on the streets were going through. I realized
everyone has a story to tell. Consequently, people and life stories
are the biggest influence affecting my writing.
Could you briefly tell
our audience about your debut book, Seeing Through the Eyes of
Love. What inspired you to write your first book and what do you
want your book to do?
Seeing Through the Eyes of Love is about a woman who is extremely judgmental, especially towards homeless people and those receiving public assistance. She meets a homeless man asking for food and belittles him. Afterwards, she meets up with him over the next few weeks and for amusement engages him in brief conversations.
One afternoon she spends time with him and others in an abandoned lot, which compels her to reevaluate her values, actions and beliefs. She’s forced to see how cruel and hurtful she has been to so many people adding to their pain.
Occasionally, I teach the importance of love and wanted to do a short story to illustrate the lessons. I thought back to Thanksgiving day 2010 when I had prepared about 15 dinners to hand out and my day from start to end was filled with such sadness. I encountered a woman sitting on a stump crying because her husband told her he didn't love her anymore and kicked her out the house minutes before I saw her.
When I was at a stop light a man was holding a sign for food or money. When I gave him a dinner, he dropped the sign, sat down and immediately began eating the first thing he pulled out. He ate so fast because he was hungry and all I could do was look ahead to hide the tears while waiting for the light to change.
There are so many more people and stories that touched me that I wanted to share why it is so important to see people through the eyes of love realizing that I'm not the only one to experience the sadness in our world.
I hope my book will
encourage people to not judge or treat others badly but extend love
to them instead. We never know why someone ended up on the street and
hope the we or our loved ones never do.
Is there anything you
find particularly challenging in your writing?
I think the most
challenging task I face is writing a book that anyone one can enjoy
and not feel overwhelmed with either Christian scripture references
or general reference, My stories, whether funny, sad, realistic or
fantasy will most likely have a message and I want people to be able
to recognize it. Therefore, I always have to find a balance.
Do you feel that
writers, regardless of genre owe something to readers, if not, why
not, if so, why and what would that be?
Yes, we owe our readers
quality work and should invest our time and money and anything else
into making sure they get it. We do them and ourselves a disservice
in producing work full of contrived scenes, bad formatting and
grammatical errors just to make a few dollars. If we want people to
buy our books, we should make it worth their money. If we want them
to see us as serious authors, we need to be serious about what we
place in front of them to purchase.
Where can our readers
find out more about you and your book Seeing Through the Eyes of
My book is available on
Amazon in paperback, Kindle and Nook.
What is next for
Valarie Lovelight and is there anything else you wish to add that we
have not covered?
I'm in the process finishing up a couple of books and holding another meeting on, The Importance of Love. At some point, I will do training on identifying different types of grief to better-educated people. Outside of that, I would like people to know that walking in love is not always easy but it is doable. It's a heart decision you have to continually make and stick with it. It does get easier the more you practise doing it.
Also, those who have read Seeing Through the Eyes of Love are asking me when is part two coming out. I never planned on a writing a sequel to this book, but who knows! I’ll have to wait and see if my characters decide if they want to share more of themselves and their lives. Love never fails but people do! Thank you Norm.
Good luck with all of your future endeavors
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