Reviewer Michelle Kaye Malsbury:
Michelle was born in Champaign, IL. Currently, she resides in Asheville, NC
and is in her second year of doctoral studies at Nova Southeastern
University in Ft. Lauderdale with specialization/concentration in
conflict resolution and peace studies. She has over six hundred
articles published on the web and one book published thus far with
many more in the wings. Hobbies include; reading, writing, music, and
playing with her Australian Cattle Dog, Abu.
Author: Janet Blair Page, PhD.
Author: Janet Blair Page, PhD.
365 Days To"I Do" begins with a section on getting to know yourself. Doctor Page says “The right person will be a good match for the person you are.” (2011, p.3) The personal data form is very encompassing and invites you to truly spend time knowing what makes you tick. Questions begin with your age and occupation then move into family background and relationships. If you are brutally honest this portion can take a while to muddle through. Next, Doctor Page suggests creating a “love resume”. (p.13) The “love resume” acts as a guide for noticing and correcting recurring patterns or themes in previous relationships. Suggestions for overcoming this dynamic begin with “…check (ing) to see if you have a distinct physical type.” (p.15) And then noting that “If you are looking for only a few types, the odds are already stacked against you.” (p.16) Furthermore, “…what you see isn’t always what you get.” So if you’ve been chasing Romeo or Adonis maybe it’s time to make room for Steve or Dean.
This book is filled with stories about other ladies seeking companions for life and how things played out for them in their search. Doctor Page says that women seeking mates should create a “spouse shopping list”. (2011, p.30) There are a variety of headings you can use or create your own. Some of those listed are: chemistry/attraction, spiritual or religious values, status/money, appearance, communication style, and more. Then you are to list your requirements, as well as, what is acceptable and unacceptable. However, Doctor Page cautions against making this list too narrow. She says “…define your prince with some latitude.” (p.32) And to “…look for things that matter to you.” (p.33)
According to Doctor Page “Love blocks are the stumbling blocks we consciously or quasi-consciously put in our paths that prevent success in love or at least slow down the process---sometimes to glacial speed.” (2011, p.46) These blocks are “…built out of anger, resentment, and negativity…they’re built out of fear.” There is a complete list of the types of men you (the reader) need to leave behind in order to move forward with this quest. Some tips for keeping your potential Mr. Right once you’ve found him are: “To be a good partner, you have to be a good listener.” (p.59) And that “No one can feel loved if they don’t’ feel understood.” Therefore, “Learn to listen with your whole heart.”
Building self-confidence is a critical step in this mating progression. Doctor Pages says, “How can you expect anyone else to love you if you don’t love yourself?” (2011, p.73) “People choose mates whose self-esteem matches their own.” (p.75) Exercise, diet, rest, and feeling good about yourself will help attract the person you want for a mate. There are hints for divorcees, single parents, for shy gals, stressed out ladies, and just about every personality out there. Doctor Page has compiled a list of turn on’s for men. (p.136) There is also an entire section of “dating do’s and don’ts”. (pgs. 143-153) Pay close attention there.
As a separated woman just embarking on her 50’s I can appreciate some of the tools Doctor Page sets forth in this book. The sections that make one look inward and contemplate our past relationships and possible future is most enlightening and somewhat painful if you’ve had a number of relationships in your life. It is my estimation that if you are looking to be married and having trouble locating your ideal man that this book can help place you on the right track. I enjoyed it despite not truly being completely in the market for my next man and I think you ladies out there will too.
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