Author: Lynda Bevan

ISBN: 978-1-932690-31-6

“This book is written for those who have suffered the hurt, humiliation and embarrassment of being betrayed by their partner having an affair.”

Trust is (or should be) the basis of a relationship. When that trust is compromised, it becomes broken. Often we wonder why we didn’t see signs of it or examine our lives to see if there was anything we had done to deserve this situation. Our mind and emotions often spin out of control, leaving us “emotionally disabled temporarily.” If you are considering working on a second chance, “Life After Betrayal” should certainly be on the top of your list of where to start.

There are different types of betrayal – affairs, lies, cheating, robbing, hurting, disappointments, illness, etc. Most of these are self-explanatory. I liked the fact that the author included “illness” in the list. When we have an illness that is not our fault (i.e. Lyme disease), we often feel betrayed. When an affair happens, we often may want to blame ourselves somehow. “If and when this happens, you must not accept the entire blame or think that the reason this has happened is ‘your fault.’” The betrayal speaks little about us, but volumes about the one betraying. However, the blame lies with both partners and “you must understand and accept that whatever happens in a relationship you are partly responsible for it occurring. This is a crucial consideration in the ‘moving on from betrayal’ process because when you have discovered and examined your role in the process you can learn to correct it.”  One acts and the other reacts – the whole of the relationship.

Go back to the beginning if the relationship is going to be re-established. Examine what is important in the relationship – love and respect, etc. will probably be on the list. Expectations will need to be discussed, as well as “joint goals,” and other issues you may find important that are listed on pages 24 through 26.

If you’re just married or ‘moving on’ after a betrayal, Bevan claims, “The range of emotional and physical status that a long-term marriage/partnership experiences will be exactly the same when you are ‘moving on’ from a betrayal.” These are all common, from deciding to love one another to sexual preferences.

Everything from “understanding disappointments” to understanding why the betrayal happened, the author has left nothing out. The first decision is to read this book – the second, is your marriage worth a second chance.

Lynda Bevan lives in the UK, has retired from the healthcare system and is currently employed at a charity that “supports people who are HIV positive.”

The above review was contributed by: Sue Vogan, Writer & Author of NCO-No Compassion Observed: To read more of Sue's reviews Click Here