Author: Charles D. Hayes
ISBN: 0962197947

The following review was contributed by:    Paul Lappen: CLICK TO VIEW Paul Lappen's Reviews

"What will people say about me after I'm gone?" "After the funeral, and after
the will, how will everyone think of me?" For the average young person, such
thoughts are not important. However, once a person reaches their 50th birthday,
such thoughts become much more important. That's what this book is all about.

The author looks at properties of life (like the Properties option in computer
software). Interesting activities make the time pass quickly, but when we are
bored, or doing something we don't want to do, time passes very slowly. A
fundamental way to learn to move with the flow of life, instead of against it,
is to understand change as an essential property of life. Regret is a built-in
component of learning life's most important lessons. A life devoid of passion is
a life lived at room temperature; we either have passion or we don't. Curiosity
usually depends on imagination and courage to proceed; it is the spark that lets
imagination burn brightly.

Various aspects of human life are also considered. No matter how famous we
become, we will all die someday. Instead of celebrating the differences among
people, a better approach is to concentrate on minimizing those differences.
When you care deeply about something, the motivation to learn about it will
follow. Those who choose reason over emotion are criticized for acting too
cerebral or wanting to discuss unsettled questions.

How to help grandchildren (or other young people) develop an enthusiasm for
learning and thirst for knowledge? People who are not learners cannot inspire
others to be what they are not. Children will easily see through such
pretension. Through your actions, convince your grandchildren that America's
greatest treasures are found in libraries, not shopping malls. Help them to
recognize the senselessness of confusing their identity with brand-name
products. Help them to understand that the greatest defense against peer
pressure is often found in the courage to be different. Help them to be wary of
groups and organizations that discourage questions.

This a very interesting and eye-opening book. While it may be intended for
people in their second half-century of life, it is very much recommended for
people who have not yet reached that age. It is never too early to start
thinking of the things mentioned here. Well worth reading.